Guys, I do not know what to do with Mara. She is such a sweetheart, and has a ton of really good qualities. Right now, however, it is hard to see those behind all the naughtiness. In her defense I know she is just struggling with Daddy being gone so much. Let's be honest, we are all struggling...including Daddy.
She screams. She yells. She throws the biggest fits. She won't listen to a word I say. No form of punishment or positive reinforcement is working. She has also started her little stutter again. It isn't bad at all, she just has a hard time starting a sentence some of the time. It totally breaks my heart. The first time she went through her "stuttering phase" it was also when Sean was gone a lot. So I'm sure it's linked to that in some way. I feel so bad. Like I must be doing something wrong. I will admit that I am short tempered quite frequently. So it's definitely a combination of bad vibes.
I am seriously at my wits end. Any suggestions you might have would be greatly appreciated.
Also, speaking of my short temper, what do you mom's out there do for some stress relief? I've recently started a "diet" so I am exercising every day and that has made a huge difference (not to mention I've lost 17 lbs in the last 5 weeks!!!!) But what else do you do? I know that I need to do something for myself so I can be a better mom. But I think that the guilt feelings are blocking any ideas I might have. Ya know?
I really need some input. Thanks!
3 comments:
Brit, I totally struggle with the same thing. Not only do I feel selfish and guilty to do something for myself but I have no resources out here to turn to for assistance with the kids. I know that the whole family would benefit from me going shopping for myself ALONE lol. Kyle is also gone ALL THE TIME!
Good luck. We need to have a sport clips play date soon!
Ps congrats on the weight loss, that is amazing!
Oh brother-you are not failing as Mara's mother-silly girl. She is 4, her dad is gone a lot, and she doesn't see her Grammy very often anymore;)Just be patient, give her extra one-on-one, and use your charts you made for her. It just takes time. You are a great mom!
Good job on the diet! I think exercise definitely helps sanity. I am short tempered too because Lily has been acting out a lot more lately. A deep breath seems to help me and her. A random distraction can be helpful too (blow up a balloon and let it fly crazy). Good luck!
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